Advice to graduates or those looking to graduate.
Allow me to give you a few tips about finishing school that you might need to think about before you are done.
Tip. keep an open mind about careers, relationships,family and friendships.
1. Think about what you want to do once you finish,plan how you want to do it & exactly what you want to achieve towards your career but also keep an open mind about where to start,don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t go exactly how you want it to go but keep the goal in mind and realize that you might have to start where you did not expect to start but start there anyway as long as you know where you want to go and trust me it’s okay if you do not know where you wanna go anyway you will figure it out along the way of life.
2. About relationships,truth about campus relationships is that many end up in marriage but some may not.Be sure about what you want as a person and also what your partner wants as well considering that people change,personal goals change and where two people started may not be exactly the position that they are at that point.key thing is to communicate with your partner about your expectations and keep those expectations at the minimum to avoid heartbreaks.Most ladies expect a natural progression of the relationship to marriage after campus despite the changes that the relationship may have gone through over time yet truth is most men at that point may not have the same perception therefore keep an open mind about this as well. Do not settle,see it for what it is and be open to any direction that it may take either way redirect your life to what is good for you and the place that you are in your life.Good thing you are still young and alot is still ahead of you.The sad reality is that dating outside school may not be as easy considering that out here everyone is busy with life,others have settled while others are just here to play and ‘see how it goes’ either way that is not a reason to settle rather than dealing with regrets of settling with the wrong partner later it’s better to sail the boat of unknown and if you are lucky you will find your star someday.
3. Friendships, very few people keep in touch with the people they schooled with reason being people move on,life happens and distance may not exactly be fair to all friendships however few may survive. Once in the daily grind you may lack time to catch up and that is how friendships die others may be lucky and get straight into working while others may be struggling a little just to keep up , this differences challenge alot of friendships. Either way it is nothing to be worried about since you will meet new people and cultivate a new cycle in a new environment one which will be easy to maintain and grow over time. The workplace is one such place.
4. Family, keep an open mind about family because on completing school you will be highly welcomed back home but after a few months or years of sitting and watching television with no progress on your part the pressure begins with intention to push you into independence. Truth is no one likes a ‘couch potato’ therefore push yourself before you are pushed. The pressure of when are you going to get a job ? When are you going to start a family? When are you going to do that masters? and alot more when are you…? questions will come, be ready for them hopefully then you will be somewhere,doing something with your life and as such questions come it will not affect you much but if nothing is happening for you then depression may creep in and that on its own is a story for another day.Otherwise you better be doing something you love somewhere and people may or may not leave you alone but live your life anyway.
On another note keep your expectations low on those you expect to push you to a level or to give you opportunities. Know that the universe owes you nothing and for you to build something for yourself you gat to hustle hard, ‘jitume’ and that is the only way it’s gonna happen.That uncle or auntie that has a prestigious job and drives a huuge car whom you are so sure is going to push for you that CV that she asked for months ago for you to get that job that you did not even apply for is a dream that may not happen.Do not sit back and wait on it incase it does not happen and you get disappointed.Keep your expectations low and do not hate those people for no reason it’s your life and you got to work hard for it.
Your grades may be up top but tarmacking is real so do not be depressed when with your first class honours those jobs don’t come calling it will one day,but for now just take the first opportunity that knocks and run with it you never know where it gets you a few years to come because it’s the experience that counts sometimes it’s not the grades. If opportunity doesn’t knock chase it instead of waiting for it to come to you,it’s rewarding.
On money learn to be satisfied with the little you get after school reality is there will be no more handouts from your parents at least not in the lumpsum that was during your school days and no more HELB to waste around. Learn to save and to hustle for your own money at least that way you will learn to appreciate every coin you earn.
Lastly do not compare your progress with your peers because everyone lives their life’s differently and every one’s time is different just recognize and utilise your opportunities well do not let them slip by you.
Stay woke and be ready to learn and grow each day.
Life is a class of its own.
#From a perspective of experience
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