A toxic relationship is a relationship between people who don’t support each other,where there’s conflict & one seeks to undermine the other,where there’s competition, disrespect & lack of cohesiveness.Its characterized by insecurity, self-centeredness,dominance & control.Toxic relationships stem from trauma such as bullying,mental health disorder, depression, bipolar disorder,childhood trauma like lack of love & support growing up or constant neglect.Most of the time it’s the underlying issues that fuel toxic partners in a toxic relationship.
How to tell a toxic relationship:. You are in a toxic relationship if you realize that you ain’t happy that you ain’t fulfilled in the person that you are with and you can’t do anything about it because your significant other isn’t willing to help you through it. A toxic relationship is consistently draining for the people in it. You are in a toxic relationship if you are constantly being emotionally abused ,if your partner intentionally makes you feel or tells you that you are unworthy,you are not deserving of good things,you are trash, constantly bringing your self esteem down. Belittling you and your feelings every time bringing down your confidence.
If you feel that the power of your relationship lies with your partner every time they want to control every aspect of your life..they want to be in control of what you do,where you go and who you associate with.That is toxic.If you are constantly unhappy in your relationship and this has made you to not see or appreciate the beauty of life or in anything for that matter.If you are in a relationship where there is constant threats of leaving or suicidal threats or threats of violence that is a toxic relationship with real deep toxic shit right there. If negative moments outweigh or outnumber the positive ones it may be time to leave.
You are in a toxic relationship if your partner constantly makes you feel insignificant all the time & you feel alone & unwanted,if your love isn’t reciprocated and you feel a negative shift in your mental health ,personality or self esteem. If you cry more than you laugh in your relationship then that partner ain’t for you. If you feel like you are constantly giving and giving and giving towards your relationship and your partner and not receiving back and you feel emotionally drained. That is toxic.
You are in a toxic relationship if you are going through physical violence,sexual violence or any form of violence that is a toxic relationship and you need to seek help to get yourself out of that negative space. A toxic relationship manifests itself in so many ways but starts slowly you rarely will notice until it has eaten you up whole & alive. You need to seek help see a therapist,be wise enough to see it coming before it’s too late. Choose yourself,love yourself & work on finding happiness on your own.
Leave a toxic relationship because it will make you lose the taste of the beauty of life and living,it may eventually push you into depression,seek help to heal,to let go & to move on. Leave a relationship/marriage/friendships if it no longer serves your purpose,if you are constantly unhappy in it leave. If you have the urge to just put an end to it that is stronger than the will to stay leave. Toxic relationships paralyzes you in it until you get used to it & you can no longer recognize the person that you are. Listen to your loved ones if they point out that something has changed in you since you got into that relationship or that marriage,if the come to your rescue listen and reflect on what they may be telling you. Most of the time other people will notice that you are in a toxic relationship before the person in it can even tell it they often wake up to it one day and often it’s when it’s too late.
Anyone can fall victim of a toxic relationship both men and women,ladies and gentlemen and there is always a Pattern that one will notice it’s often that you realize victims or perpetrators of this move from one toxic relationship to another and another until they are bitter with life or just throw a towel on love and say it doesn’t exist. Truth is love exists take time to heal first so when you find it you can see it for what it is and you won’t fall for the wrong ones ever again.
Toxic relationships may be in the form of social friendships,dating relationships, a marriage,family ties or bonds or even professional relationships in the workplace. Protect your space and avoid toxic people.
In a marriage or a relationship if a toxic partner is struggling from underlying issues like depression, anxiety issues,bipolar disorder,mental health disorder, addiction or even trauma and is willing to work through it together or is willing to seek help to better themselves and is working towards that and is committed to really change then you give it a chance.Go to therapy let them seek professional help and take medication to treat themselves so they cannot harm you with their destructive behaviors again if they are not willing to do it don’t try to be the fixer of other people’s lives just walk. Avoid the Olivia pope syndrome and just walk to protect your sanity leave.
Remember that : Love should never cost you your peace. It should never cost you your joy. It should never cost you your happiness.If there’s more negative in the situation than positive something has to change. Choose you,choose happiness & peace over all else.
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